Dear meme makers…

Dear meme makers,

Please spare the world from your “the most important thing you can ever do or decision you can ever make is…” statements. There are over 7 billion people on the planet. There is no single recipe for living a fulfilling & rewarding life or being successful or happy that meets the needs of all people.

If a personal development meme goes to extremes by using phrases like “the best” “the most” “always” “never” or tries to tell you what you “need” without providing context or qualifiers, it is likely, at the very least, an opinion and not a fact. And at the most, frankly, superficial bullshit designed to sound good and gain likes without actually helping anyone.

Making a difference requires mindfulness

Do you care about your friends? Your neighbors? Your community? Local businesses? Your city? If the answer is yes, what are you doing that demonstrates these things in a significant and meaningful way? It’s one thing to think & say that you care. It’s another thing entirely to actively demonstrate it through your actions & lifestyle.

Making a difference means being mindful of the people, places, and things that you can make a difference with and then taking action in a meaningful way. The act of not making things worse is not the same thing as making things better.

A heartfelt thank you for the thank you

I received my first heartfelt “thank you” for my book this afternoon from a man who said the ending almost made him cry. Which sounds about right, because the ending almost made me cry when I wrote it.

It’s nice when emotions can transcend words like that. And I have to admit his “thanks” just now made me a little teary eyed.

He’s buying a copy for a friend. And says there are a number of lessons he wants his kids to read, so he’s “putting pages around the house”.

If that’s not one of the most complimentary things I’ve ever read, I don’t know what is.

“Where did all the good men go?”

Dating profile: He must have dark hair, be over 6′ tall, fit, successful, have a reputable career, want kids, love to travel, live within 10 miles, and have lots of time for me. No I will not meet you for coffee. If I’m not worth dinner, don’t even bother. No cheap dates!

Same person: “Where did all the good men go?”

“He never listens to me.”

“He never listens to me.” “He’s not in tune with what I’m thinking.” “I never really know how he’s feeling.” “I just wish we could have a meaningful conversation.” “He’s bad at showing his emotions.” “He never lets me in.”

Same person: “I want a ‘real man’ (not a sensitive one).”

See the problem(s)?


Teamwork sits alongside trust, communication, and tolerance as a building block of the best relationships.

Teamwork is not “What can I get out of this relationship?”, it’s “What can I bring to this relationship to make it better?”

It’s the combined commitment to overcome obstacles. It’s support. It’s encouragement. It’s working together. It’s rising to the challenge of bettering yourself for the benefit of the whole.

Teamwork is providing the support and encouragement necessary to help others better themselves and succeed in their endeavors.

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Lessons Learned from The Path Less Traveled by Zero Dean

Stand up for what you believe to be true, but do it wisely

Lessons Learned from The Path Less Traveled by Zero Dean

If you’re trying to win an argument by shouting, being nasty, or calling your opponent names, you’re not going to “win” the argument even if you’re right. And you will almost certainly ensure that your words will do little more than convince the person you’re arguing with of your ability to behave badly.

Be passionate & stand up for what you believe to be true, but do it wisely. Being an ass doesn’t make you right. And those who approve of how you make your argument are not people you need to convince of its validity.

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