When one’s motivation is dependent on external sources, the moment those sources are absent is the moment one’s motivation begins to fade. This is because motivation is a state of mind.
And if a particular state of one’s mind is dependent on the availability of things it doesn’t always have control over, it can be difficult to attain the state of mind associated with those things when they’re unavailable.
This is why it’s important to learn how to develop the mental discipline necessary to be one’s own source of motivation. When one is able to motivate themselves, they light a kind of fire that can burn indefinitely.
When you want what you want badly enough, not only will no one be able to motivate you more than you can motivate yourself, no amount of rejection, no amount of criticism, and no one other than you will be able to deter you from what you want to achieve.
Along the way to achieving whatever it is you desire, make sure your mindset is conducive to creating positive thought processes that reinforce your efforts.
Because until one changes the way they think, they will continue to follow familiar patterns in life. An example of this is when people start new endeavors with enthusiasm (or make New Year’s resolutions), but then fail to find the motivation necessary to follow through after obstacles arise.
The fire you light within yourself must not only burn hot enough to stay alight during turbulent times, it mustn’t be dependent on things you have no control over.
You can’t just sit around believing in the beauty of your dreams or hoping opportunity will show up at your door. That’s not how opportunity works. That’s just wishful thinking.
The quote would be more complete if it ended with “and take action to make them a reality.”
We don’t so much attract opportunities out of the blue as we create them by taking action. So when you say or think, “I have no opportunities.” (and, be careful with the kind of thinking), it’s important to make sure you are not just sitting around thinking, “I’ve done my work.”, “I have my degree.”, or “I’ve tried everything.” and now simply waiting for an opportunity to come calling.
“They always say time changes things, but you actually have to change them yourself.” — Andy Warhol
Yes, sometimes opportunity will come knocking. But most of the time, it’s you that has to get off your butt, go door to door, and do the knocking yourself.
You create opportunities with your actions. Every day you that sit around saying you have no opportunities is a day full of opportunities wasted.
If you want more opportunities in your life, one of the most effective ways to create them is by either focus on bettering yourself in some way or by taking the time to help solve someone else’s problem.
The world is full of people who are trying to solve a problem — be it large or small — that you may be able to help find a solution to. And by making yourself more open to assisting others, you open up a whole new world of potential opportunities as a result — and you create a tremendous amount of goodwill in the process.
As for bettering yourself, people who are committed to excellence know that there is always room for improvement.
From improving a set of skills to expanding your knowledge, doing career-related research, focusing on your health or fitness, nearly everything you do to actively improve yourself will reap benefits and opportunities in your life.
While you may not always see results right away, no amount of effort you expend to improve yourself in some meaningful fashion is ever wasted.
And this is certainly more productive than sitting around saying you have no opportunities.
Anyone who ever attempts to achieve a lofty goal in life will nearly always have to deal with people who try to deter them from achieving their goals.
Whether one encounters true haters or simply well-meaning people offering what they consider to be reasonable play-it-safe advice, it may be helpful to know that the most vocal doubters and detractors of others’ dreams are often those who don’t have the confidence, attitude, or tenacity necessary to achieve their own.
“Don’t let someone who gave up on their dreams talk you out of yours.”
It’s not achievers who spend their time trying to steal other people’s dreams, it’s those who gave up on achieving their own — or worse, never tried.
It is the people who repeatedly set and struggle to achieve lofty goals in life that are often the most vocal cheerleaders for others who wish to do the same.
Because anyone who has ever struggled to achieve anything great knows that the journey to accomplish worthy goals is often fraught with hardship. Achievers know from experience that great tasks often appear improbable — or even impossible — before done.
So don’t waste your time worrying about the doubters who don’t believe in what you’re working to achieve.
Disregard those who find it necessary to point out your mistakes or failures without offering solutions.
Refuse to engage with people who seek to scare you from your chosen path by pointing out all of the things that could go wrong along the way.
And resist the urge to repeatedly explain your goals to those who refuse to understand them.
You don’t need the permission, approval, or understanding of others to achieve great things.
When you receive advice or criticism, be sure to consider its source. Those who know what it means to set lofty goals and struggle to achieve them will offer far more sage advice than those who don’t.
Yes, the situation you’re struggling with sucks. But answer this question:
Are you going to let it stop you?
If the answer is no, great! But then that raises another question:
If you’re not going to let your current circumstances stop you, what are you doing beating yourself up and making yourself feel miserable when you could be pushing forward and working on overcoming whatever it is you are struggling with?
If you are struggling, remember: “This, too, shall pass”. But also know that whatever we are struggling with passes faster when we focus on the steps we can take to change our lives for the better, no matter how small those steps may be. Because over time, even small steps can carry us a great distance.
Always, always, always focus on what you CAN do.
Original version published on: Dec 23, 2018 @ 12:45
For those struggling, remember, “ThisTooShallPass”. But it passes faster when we focus on the steps we can take to change our lives for the better, no matter how small those steps may be. Because over time, even little steps can carry us a great distance.