When one’s motivation is dependent on external sources, the moment those sources are absent is the moment one’s motivation begins to fade. This is because motivation is a state of mind.
And if a particular state of one’s mind is dependent on the availability of things it doesn’t always have control over, it can be difficult to attain the state of mind associated with those things when they’re unavailable.
This is why it’s important to learn how to develop the mental discipline necessary to be one’s own source of motivation. When one is able to motivate themselves, they light a kind of fire that can burn indefinitely.
When you want what you want badly enough, not only will no one be able to motivate you more than you can motivate yourself, no amount of rejection, no amount of criticism, and no one other than you will be able to deter you from what you want to achieve.
It’s good to have a gentle soul. It’s good to care. It’s good to empathize.
But there’s a reason why coaches don’t always speak at the same volume with the same tone of voice.
Having the greatest positive impact and having the greatest number of friends are often at odds with each other.
Often, what people think they want and what they actually need are not one and the same.
Sometimes the words people need to hear in order to make the greatest positive difference in their lives are not soft & gentle, but instead, communicated in a way that hit them like a kick in the ass.
If you speak bluntly at times, you won’t please everyone, but your message will be far more effective than if you always try to.
It is far more respectful to your audience to say what needs to be said than it is to always water down what you want to communicate to the point that it is no longer effective.
The best coaches, the best bosses, the best CEOs in the world don’t do their jobs effectively by always telling people what they want to hear. They do their best jobs by making the greatest positive impact and saying what needs to be said.