Light your own fire

When one’s motivation is dependent on external sources, the moment those sources are absent is the moment one’s motivation begins to fade. This is because motivation is a state of mind.

And if a particular state of one’s mind is dependent on the availability of things it doesn’t always have control over, it can be difficult to attain the state of mind associated with those things when they’re unavailable.

This is why it’s important to learn how to develop the mental discipline necessary to be one’s own source of motivation. When one is able to motivate themselves, they light a kind of fire that can burn indefinitely.

Originally Published on: Apr 29, 2015 @ 09:05

Perception and Rejection

One person may look at something and see one thing. Another may look at the same thing and see something else. It’s not the thing that’s different, it’s the perception of the person looking at it.

Your creativity, originality, genius and the value that you offer won’t always be recognized or appreciated for what it is. Just because some people fail to see the value in what you have to offer doesn’t mean you should stop offering it.

Criticism is common

Criticism is common.

People who don’t let it adversely affect them are not.

Be uncommon.

If you don’t want to be the type of person who lets criticism impact their life in a significant way, don’t be.


Saved by criticism

“The trouble with most of us is that we would rather be ruined by praise than saved by criticism.” — Norman Vincent Peale

Be confident enough in yourself to listen to criticism and explore views you don’t necessarily agree with — because those who always agree with you will rarely push you to improve as much as those who don’t.

“A wise person knows that there is something to be learned from everyone.” — Unknown



Originally Published on: Feb 16, 2016 @ 11:49

Self-confidence is a byproduct of a stable sense of self-worth.

Self-confidence is a byproduct of a stable sense of self-worth.

A stable sense of self-worth is a byproduct of self-acceptance.

If you wish to be more self-confident, learn to accept yourself as you are.


Originally Published on: Oct 1, 2015 @ 06:33

Resist the urge to always explain yourself

The fact is – for any number of reasons that are often beyond our control – people don’t always see us in the same way we see ourselves.

While it’s natural to care about how you are perceived, it is an exercise in futility to try to explain yourself or justify your actions to everyone who doesn’t get you. Not only is this often a waste of time, it will likely make you seem insecure on top of everything else.

People will often draw conclusions about others based on what they imagine or guess to be true rather than what actually is. They may even presume to know what motivates a person or declare with confidence that they know why that person took a specific course of action. When, in fact, these conclusions can paint a picture that doesn’t at all reflect reality. And that’s OK.

It is perfectly acceptable to ignore the fact that other people have the wrong impression of you. Because, with few exceptions, what other people think about you will have absolutely no impact on your life unless you choose to let it.

When you truly know who you are, it won’t matter so much that other people don’t. What matters is focusing on who you want to be and what you wish to accomplish with your life regardless of those who don’t get you, what you’re doing, or what you wish to do.

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