When someone asks you questions and you answer them, that’s called an interview. Fine for trying to land a job, not so much fun or productive when it comes to dating. If you’re trying to show a lack of interest in the person who is trying to get to know you, simply answering questions and waiting for more is an excellent way to do this.
People often demonstrate their suitability for a job by the amount of effort & enthusiasm they invest to get it.
If you put in a minimal amount of effort to get a job, expect a minimal amount of results.
Never underestimate the power of a well written cover letter. Your cover letter is one place where what you say and how you say it can make you to stand out more than applicants who have more experience or better qualifications. Because, it’s easier to train people to do a job than it is to train them to be passionate or enthusiastic about it.
The fact that you’ve probably never enjoyed listening to anyone else complain is a pretty solid sign that no one enjoys listening to you do it either.
Help stamp out rampant complaining.
Always focus on solutions and what is within your power to change.
Even just changing your message from, “This is a problem!” to “This is a problem and I want to fix it.” changes your tone, implies there is a real purpose for your message and invites a discussion for solutions.
- The problem with problems.
- Self-imposed limitations: A tough pill to swallow
- There are many things in this world that you are not responsible for…
Originally Published on: Aug 27, 2013 @ 13:23
If you have a problem with “Tell the truth, even if it hurts”, then know that what you’re essentially saying is that it’s okay for people to lie to you, as long as the lie appeals to your ego and sense of worth.
If you want to build a relationship based on false beliefs and miscommunication, then lying to a person because it makes them feel better — or makes you feel better about yourself — is an excellent way to accomplish this.
Not only is this not an open or honest way to communicate, it is one of the reasons why so many friendships and marriages fail. Because rather than truly address and resolve issues, friends or couples choose to cover them up with “little white lies.”
Originally published January 16, 2014
- “I liked that shop, it’s too bad they closed.”
- “That was a great website, I wonder why it went offline.”
- “I really like that artist, I wonder why they don’t make art anymore.”
Silent support isn’t supportive.
Support can be anything from kind words & encouragement, positive feedback, to patronage & purchases. If you like or appreciate something, take the time to express it.