You may be very happy with your life — and that’s wonderful — but that doesn’t mean everyone else wants to live their lives just like you do. Consider this when you judge how others live. Learning to judge less & appreciate differences is a good thing.
These are crazy times and difficult to emotionally navigate for many.
It can be hard to think of effective ways to “fix” what’s wrong with the world and very easy to believe that things won’t ever change when we can’t.
Sometimes we get so wrapped up in how we think about problems in the world – and our inability to do much of anything about them – that we become demoralized and feel powerless as a result.
Understand that as much as you may want to see things change for the better, you are not responsible for initiating changes on a global level.
It’s important to be mindful of the fact that you can only affect things that are within your power to influence or control. And as limited in scope as this may seem, it is enough to make a meaningful difference in the lives of those you connect with.
And it often starts by doing the kinds of things that you respect & admire when others do them and taking action in ways that you can always be proud of no matter how you are feeling.
Just a reminder: making yourself feel miserable about your mistakes is optional.
While acknowledging mistakes is important, beating yourself up over history won’t change the past, but focusing on what you learned from the experience and moving on in a productive fashion can change the future.
Life is hard enough already without abusing yourself for things you can’t change. Focus on positive progress by changing what you can.
Even for the most resolute individuals, failure is always a possibility. But there is a huge difference between letting a setback mark the end of your journey and pushing forward – despite defeats – equipped with the knowledge you learned from the experience.
Not everything we do on our journey gets us the results we want, but setbacks only lead to long-term failure if we stop putting in the effort to make progress.
What we learn from failure & unmet expectations are an integral part of achieving goals.
The fact that you’ve probably never enjoyed listening to anyone else complain is a pretty solid sign that no one enjoys listening to you do it either.
Help stamp out rampant complaining.
Always focus on solutions and what is within your power to change.
Even just changing your message from, “This is a problem!” to “This is a problem and I want to fix it.” changes your tone, implies there is a real purpose for your message and invites a discussion for solutions.
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Originally Published on: Aug 27, 2013 @ 13:23
When one’s motivation is dependent on external sources, the moment those sources are absent is the moment one’s motivation begins to fade. This is because motivation is a state of mind.
And if a particular state of one’s mind is dependent on the availability of things it doesn’t always have control over, it can be difficult to attain the state of mind associated with those things when they’re unavailable.
This is why it’s important to learn how to develop the mental discipline necessary to be one’s own source of motivation. When one is able to motivate themselves, they light a kind of fire that can burn indefinitely.
Originally Published on: Apr 29, 2015 @ 09:05