Every day you have the power to bring out the best in people simply by sincerely highlighting those things you appreciate about them the most.
Whatever you focus on grows stronger. When you focus on those things you enjoy most about people (and life in general), you not only encourage more of the types of behaviors you like to see in others, you attract more of these types of things into your life.
The same is true when you look for the negative. Not only will you find it, you’ll magnify it.
This is why it’s important to be very deliberate with what you choose to focus on, because it is extremely easy to leapfrog from one negative thing to another until you suddenly find yourself overwhelmed, depressed, or in despair.
This is not to say we should ignore problems — or those traits in others we don’t like — only that when we direct out attention to these things, we remain solution-oriented, not problem focused.
- It’s all there for you if you want it
- The problem with problems
- How to reduce the size of your problems
- Depression. You’re having a bad time. Not a bad life.
Originally published on: Feb 7, 2014 @ 15:41
Republished on: Jun 6, 2015 @ 14:41