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People may tell you something. And if you misunderstand it, they may try to clarify what they meant when they said it.
And, unless they are known to be manipulative or approval-seeking, what they say they meant is probably what they meant (and not what you think they meant).
To assume you know what someone else was thinking or what they really meant when they said something — despite their attempts to correct you — is more a reflection of your line of thinking than it is of theirs.
The words you put in people’s mouths are your own. Allow people to explain themselves.
Language — and especially the written word — can be a tricky thing. Not everyone gets it right the first time. And even if they do, not everyone interprets it in exactly the same way.
But if you want to be offended by something because you choose to misinterpret it and insist that your interpretation is correct, it’s easy to do and that’s your choice.
But if you wish to communicate with someone clearly, I wouldn’t recommend it.
- Emotional reasoning
- Matters of miscommunication
- Filling in the blanks
- Offsite: We don’t see things as they are.
- Offsite: Don’t forget to clean your glasses
- Offsite: ‘Not everyone thinks the way you think’