The fire you light within yourself

Excerpt from: my book series

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Along the way to achieving whatever it is you desire, make sure your mindset is conducive to creating positive thought processes that reinforce your efforts.

Because until one changes the way they think, they will continue to follow familiar patterns in life. An example of this is when people start new endeavors with enthusiasm (or make New Year’s resolutions), but then fail to find the motivation necessary to follow through after obstacles arise.

The fire you light within yourself must not only burn hot enough to stay alight during turbulent times, it mustn’t be dependent on things you have no control over.

When life shuts a door…

Excerpt from: my book series

Seen in a meme:

“When life shuts a door… Open it again. It’s a door. That’s how they work.”

Yes, doors may work that way, but opportunities don’t.

But that doesn’t mean other opportunities don’t exist.

The key to maximizing one’s potential to meet opportunities is to not passively wait for opportunities to land on one’s lap, and instead, continually be on the lookout for new ones.

And if no opportunities appear to exist, take steps to facilitate their existence. Learn new skills, hone existing ones, and try to view the world from a different angle.

Often, a change of perspective is enough to draw one’s attention to opportunities that were cleverly disguised as something else.

Don’t close yourself off to potential opportunities simply because you don’t see them from your current level of awareness.

Keeping an open mind and believing that opportunities exist — despite one’s ability to immediately see them — is often enough to keep them from going unnoticed.

Those who don’t look for opportunities will have to settle for the rare few that land on their lap.

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The next level

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Despite expectations and intentions, everyone’s lives are occasionally punctuated with plateaus upon which little appears to happen.

Reaching a plateau in life is simply a sign that in order for things to advance to the next level, either you or something you’re doing must change.

“Change is not merely necessary to life, it is life.” — Alvin Toffler

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Choose an authentic life that fits you

Excerpt from: Do your thing.

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Choose an authentic life that fits you, not a poorly fitting imitation of someone else’s.

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The struggle to achieve

Anyone who has ever struggled to achieve something great knows that the journey to accomplish worthy goals is often fraught with hardship. They know that great tasks may sometimes appear improbable — or even impossible — before completed.

And, finally, they know that there is far more value in attempting great things — and learning from the experience — than there is in never trying.

“Be bold and courageous. When you look back on your life, you’ll regret the things you didn’t do more than the ones you did.” — H. Jackson Brown, Jr

Listening to sage advice from experienced individuals who wish to help you is one thing, entertaining criticism and fear mongering from people who have little understanding of what you want to do is another.

Not everyone will understand your journey. That’s fine. It’s not their journey to make sense of. It’s yours.”

Refuse to engage with those who try to scare you from going after what you want in life by pointing out all of the things that could go wrong or how weird what you want to do is.

“Freedom lies in being bold.” — Robert Frost

Know that, more often than not, the people who try to deter others from going after their dreams are those who fail to have what it takes to go after their own.

If you truly believe in what you’re trying to accomplish in life, don’t be overly concerned with those who don’t.

Anyone can take the easy path, follow the crowd, or do nothing. Refuse to entertain criticism from those who do.

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Wanting success doesn’t ensure it.

Seen in a meme:

“When you want to succeed as bad as you want to breathe, then you will be successful.”

It’s a quote by Eric Thomas from his book, “The Secret to Success”.

To be fair, I’m uncertain of the context of this quote within the book, but as a stand alone saying, it’s incomplete.

Intense desire can provide the motivation to act, but without action, desire — like wishful thinking — does very little.

One can want to succeed as badly as they want to breathe, but without being both willing and able to take the steps and make the sacrifices necessary to meet their goal, one won’t survive the road to success long enough to arrive at their desired destination.

The desire to breathe doesn’t keep people from drowning. Taking the steps necessary to get oxygen and stay afloat does. And this starts with learning how to swim.

An intense desire to be successful does not ensure success. One must be willing and able to learn & commit to the actions necessary to achieve it.

You can read a million motivational sayings to pump yourself up — or echo them to others until you’re blue in the face — but that won’t change anything unless you take action and consistently change your behavior.

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Painting the canvas of life

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If one’s thoughts are the medium with which they paint their life, one’s actions are the brushstrokes.

It is the skill with which one is able to direct both their thoughts & actions — and the synergy between the two — that allows one to manifest the kind of life they desire.

The more control a person gains over their self, the more control they gain over their life. The more control a person has over their life, the happier they tend to be.

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If you want to love your life, do things worth remembering.

Excerpt from: It’s your life. Live it to love it.

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If you want to love your life, do things worth remembering. Don’t just “exist” and then wonder why your life isn’t all that interesting when you’re bored.

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Remind yourself that every day has value

Excerpt from: Expiration date

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Reminding yourself that every day has value and every day that passes is another day closer to your expiration date can provide the perspective & motivation necessary to help you prioritize your life in a way that reflects the kind of person you truly want to be.

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