“The trouble with most of us is that we would rather be ruined by praise than saved by criticism.” — Norman Vincent Peale
Be confident enough in yourself to listen to criticism and explore views you don’t necessarily agree with — because those who always agree with you will rarely push you to improve as much as those who don’t.
“A wise person knows that there is something to be learned from everyone.” — Unknown
It’s important to recognize that although some portions of one’s path through life may resemble another’s, we all have a very unique set of personal resources, life experiences, and circumstances that keep our paths from ever totally matching someone else’s. On top of that, we are all driven by a combination of values and priorities that are as unique to each of us as our DNA.
So it should be obvious that no two people live the same life.
And yet, many not only make a habit of comparing their lives to others, they get discouraged when they discover that someone has attained something they lack or achieved something they haven’t.
Always remember that although some people’s paths may, at times, resemble others, no two people are on the same journey through life.
And because every person’s path through life is unique, it makes no sense to let the apparent successes of others on their paths discourage you from walking your own.
If you focus more on what you wish to accomplish in your life and less on what others are doing in theirs, you will be rewarded with an authentic life that fits you and not a poorly fitting imitation of someone else’s.
The point of life isn’t to follow the footsteps of others. It’s to make your own. So do your best and concern yourself more with what you want to do on your path in life and less about what others are doing on theirs.
Be inspired by the greatness of others on their paths, but don’t ever let the accomplishments of another person deter you from your own.
It’s better to be your genuine self and have fewer of the right kinds of people in your life than it is to surround yourself with those who only accept you as long as you conform to their idea of who you should be.
Learn to know the difference between what you can change about yourself and what you can’t.
Understand that you are a work-in-progress and that the things about yourself that you have power over — such as your attitude, diet, fitness, habit, and skills — can and will change for the better over time if you work on them.
Regardless of where you are in your journey, accept yourself as you are at this time.
You are stronger, smarter, and more resilient than you think. You are capable of achieving far more than you believe.
You were meant for greatness — like all of those who have achieved it.
But it takes persistence. It takes determination. It takes facing your fears and doing that which is hard & necessary, instead of what is quick and easy. It takes skipping the mythical shortcuts & using your imagination as a map and preview of life’s coming attractions.
Don’t give power to those who don’t have your best interest in mind. Reclaim the freedom to be your true self by defining your own identity and wrestle back control of your thoughts, feelings, and sense of self-worth from those you have inadvertently given power over you.
With the proper skills, attitude, and approach you can navigate to wherever you wish to go.
But how quickly & easily you get to your desired destination depends not only on how efficiently you operate — and how resilient you are to challenges you encounter along the way — but on the overall integrity of your vessel.
In other words, how well you do in life depends a lot on how well you can handle and navigate less than desirable circumstances.
Now consider that your weaknesses are like leaks in the hull of this boat.
Under normal circumstances — and if the leaks are small — one can often bail out water quickly enough to keep their boat afloat.
Now, because a boat with leaks takes more energy to manage than one without, the ideal approach is to locate and plug as many leaks as possible.
The more leaks that one can plug, the more efficiently the boat will float and the less one feels the negative effects of the leaks that remain.
In short, identifying one’s weakness and then working on ways to overcome them makes one’s life more manageable.
On the flip side, if the leaks in one’s boat become too prevalent — perhaps while navigating a stormy sea — one’s vessel will take in water faster than one can bail it out.
And whether we’re talking about leaks or personal weaknesses here, not being able to manage them effectively can lead to feelings of being overwhelmed, helpless, and depressed.
So you can see why identifying and actively working on one’s weaknesses can be beneficial and empowering.
How to overcome weaknesses is beyond the scope of this post, but it should help to point out that the more that one can identify their weaknesses, triggers, and bad habits, the more that they can make a conscious effort to reduce them.
The more a person makes a conscious effort to reduce the impact of their weaknesses, the more they’re able to direct their life where they want it go.
The more control a person gains over their self, the more control they gain over their life. The more control a person has over their life, the happier they tend to be.
One of the biggest steps toward gaining control over one’s life is gaining control over one’s self.
Plug your leaks.
(And if you can’t plug them, at least learn ways to minimize them).
“We either make ourselves miserable or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same.” — Carlos Castaneda