How do you show people that you mean what you say? That you can be trusted? That you have a good heart and character? The key is in the word “show”. You show who you truly are by what you consistently do. And when your actions are congruent with your words.
Talk is cheap. Don’t just say you care about something. Don’t just say you believe in a cause or a way of life. Take action and show it. And remember to show what you believe in when it matters, not just when it’s in your own best interest.
From personal relationships to business to politics, the person who isn’t afraid to be themselves, make mistakes, and even challenge you, is generally acting with far more integrity than the person attempting to do, say, and convey all the right things in order to win your affection, support or business.
Beware those afraid to show their human side or the work or thought process that led to whatever they’re saying or selling.
It’s probably wiser to consider wisdom from a wise & imperfect person — that acts like a real human being — than it is to take wisdom from a “wise” & “perfect” person that acts like a robot.
The former suggests authenticity. The latter suggests someone trying to hide their true self in order to come across as something that they’re not.
It’s one thing to have the answers, it’s another to have earned them from experience.
Don’t fall victim to those seemingly perfect people or products that cater to your ego or sense of self-worth in order to profit from your patronage.
No one in this world is perfect. There are only people who pretend to be.
There is a big difference between saying or doing something kind because you feel it is expected of you out of politeness and saying or doing something kind because you truly mean it.
When your true intention is kindness, don’t just go through the motions. Be kind like you mean it.
Even with simple social standards like saying “Please”, “Thank you”, and “You’re welcome”.
“Please”, “Thank you”, and “You’re welcome” are magic words, but they lose much of their power when expressed as a reflexive gesture as opposed to being communicated with sincerity.
Know that people can not only hear the difference when you speak with or without sincerity, they can feel it. So if you’re going to take the time to express things like “Thank you” and “You’re welcome — and you truly mean it — don’t just say the words without putting some thought & feeling behind them.
Take the time to express kindness like you mean it by speaking your words clearly and sincerely. Use your eyes, your voice, your body language, and your actions to reinforce those words.
For example, it’s not “Yup.” that follows “Thank you.” It’s “You’re welcome.”
It should be obvious, but “Yup” and “You’re welcome” do not even come close to meaning the same thing.
You might be surprised as how much of a difference it makes when it’s completely obvious to others that you mean what you say.
It feels better for everyone because it is better for everyone.
But would they listen to you, follow you, and respect what you have to say if you weren’t wearing a suit, if you didn’t hold a fancy title, if you didn’t look successful in the conventional materialistic fashion or consistently boast of your numerous accolades & accomplishments?
That’s what I want to know of every modern day “motivational speaker”.
Because, to me, so much of the thoughts & lessons motivational speakers share these days appear to simply be taken from other motivational speakers and not actually from the struggle of life experience.
This is like having the answer to advanced math problems without doing the work.
Anyone can do it.
1. Buy a fancy suit.
2. Look “successful”.
3. Repeat the same things everyone else is saying.
I want to see the process that led to the insights and the answers.
No fancy suits or hundred dollar haircuts required.