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“Emotional reasoning is a cognitive process that occurs when a person believes that what he or she is feeling is true regardless of a presented evidence.” — Wikipedia
Believe it or not, direct communication, and not making guesses or assumptions — no matter how right you think you are — is still the most reliable way to get accurate information on why someone has chosen to act (or not act) a certain way.
Leaps of logic with regard to others’ motivation are often prone to being inaccurate when one is working with only personal experience or a limited amount of information.
If you want to know the when, what, or why behind something someone did or is doing, many times all you have to do is ask.
Never underestimate the power of clear, open, honest, and direct communication as a means to establish or perpetuate long-lasting and rewarding relationships.
As it is often a lack of these things that ultimately cause relationships to fail.
Don’t fill in the blanks for things you don’t know the true answers to with negative things that you convince yourself are the truth.