Hello! This is your inner child calling. Remember me? You’re an adult now and we seem to have parted ways some time ago.
I just wanted to tell you how much I miss being able to act and do things without so much regard to what you imagine others might think. Because, once upon a time, that didn’t matter. Remember?
You forget that the majority of people actually like to see people loving life. Laughing. Playing. Being silly. And as long as they’re not being rude or causing harm, people often admire those who don’t concern themselves so much with what other people think.
Maybe part of the key to being happy doesn’t involve staying disconnected from the part of you that was most familiar with states of true joy & happiness. Maybe it involves being confident and comfortable with your complete self.
Because that person who experienced those states of joy & happiness wasn’t looking for those things. They were those things
Every time you say something is hard or difficult for you, you reinforce in your mind how difficult it is, and you actually make it harder and more difficult (according to your belief) than it needs to be.
The fact is, most things we do are difficult before they get easier. Everything from walking to talking to writing or typing was difficult at one point.
Rather than focus on how difficult something is, always focus on your progress and how far you’ve come, not on how far you have to go.
Because no matter how slow you go, as long as you are consistent in your efforts (and you are biologically capable), you will achieve what it is you set out to accomplish.
And what you once considered difficult, no longer will be.
But only if you get started and only if you don’t give up.
Because shit happens and life isn’t always easy — and if you focus on it, it may be all you see, but there’s always so much more to the world than that.
And sometimes we need these experiences to help us see — or remind us of — this fact.
When things aren’t going well, it might just mean you’re in the process of learning or being reminded of something important.
Whenever life presents you with a challenge, remind yourself, “There is a lesson in this.” and realize that it will likely not become evident until after the experience has passed. Because most of life’s lessons are not labeled as lessons until one has learned what they’ve had to teach.
I’ve been sitting in my car in the gym parking lot for over an hour with my laptop plugged in while also listening to the car stereo.
I am standing in the gym parking lot next to my car while holding jumper cables. I feel fortunate this happened in this location because there is a lot of pedestrian and vehicle traffic.
I have been standing in the parking lot holding jumper cables for over 10 minutes while people drive or walk by without making eye contact. Some pass as close as 10 feet away, but it is obvious people are too busy or too absorbed in their own lives to help.
I’m beginning to wonder how long I will wait. And I admit, I begin to think there is a problem with the people here. I don’t see kindness in the people passing.
In contrast, both times this happened while I was staying somewhere else last year, the first people to see me were also the first to offer to help.
Today, this is far from the case — and, if I’m frank, I’m not only not feeling particularly good about the people in this area, I’m having doubts about the human race.
Me, the optimist, I’ve let this experience get to me.
An older Latina woman walks to her car 3 spaces from mine and gets in — at first I think she’s going to drive away, but she rolls down her window and asks if I could use some help.
Her smile is infectious.
My car is started.
The whole jump starting process took less than 4 minutes — most of that time taken up explaining how to jumpstart a car, as the woman insisted I teach her.
We part ways smiling.
I arrive at the local cafe I like to work at. I grab my laptop bag from my car, but cannot locate my new coffee travel mug. I think I left it here last night.
Oh well. That sucks.
I walk into the cafe. All the tables near outlets are taken.
I set down my laptop bag at one of the tables that are free.