"Can’t." You keep using this word.

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“Can’t”. You keep using this word. I do not think it means what you think it means.

*Inspired by The Princess Bride

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Achieving personal goals: Focus on the positive

Achieving personal goals: Focus on the positive

How you see the world is largely a matter of what you focus on.

What kind of world do you want to live in? Do you want to live in a world that is hostile and dangerous, or one that is friendly and warm?

To see more of what you want in life, remember to focus on what you want to see rather than on what you don’t want or don’t see. Look for and focus on those things that you can like and appreciate in others, not on what you don’t like.

You will find the world to be a much friendlier place by being positive — and discussing what you like — than by being negative and complaining about what you don’t like.

We find what we seek. By remembering this at times when you might otherwise find yourself being negative, your attention on the positive will attract more of what you are looking for in life.

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Achieving personal goals: Focus on what you CAN do

Achieving personal goals: Focus on what you CAN do

There are always things you can’t do. But there are always things that you CAN.

There are always things beyond your control. But there are always things within it.

You’re never as stuck as you think you are.

Anyone who ever accomplished anything had limitations. If you truly want something, you’ll find a way.

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Your world will change dramatically…

Excerpt from: my book series

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Your world will change dramatically once you stop giving yourself reasons why you can’t do the things that are holding you back and you start giving yourself reasons why you can.

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Depression. You're having a bad time. Not a bad life.

Authors note: At the time I wrote this, it was actually directed towards a friend who was going through a really hard time (on facebook). I’m not sure they ever read this post — and it had a different title — but I know they occasionally read my posts (and still do) — so I put it out there in case the universe directed them to it. In any case, I’m happy to report they bounced back.

Life is not all peanut butter and chocolate (assuming you like peanut butter and chocolate) — sometimes it just sucks. [ And sometimes the hard times seem to just land in your life out of nowhere <–> (Hyperbole and a Half) ]

And no one escapes completely — we all have “bad times”. And that may seem obvious, but mostly when you’re not in the middle of one.

Even for those of us who seem so positive, optimistic, and cheerful all the time (something I’ve been accused of on occasion), there isn’t always an escape from hard times when Trouble — with a capital T — comes calling.

And let me be clear here, I’m not talking about the little things like burning your toast or dropping your phone or being denied entry into Canada or destroying your dream laptop with coffee or having $5,000 worth of bikes stolen or being escorted out of Starbucks by 2 police officers

I’m talking about the times when it seems like nothing is going right —

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It’s all there for you if you want it.

Excerpt from: my book series

Sometimes work sucks, relationships suck and we find ourselves feeling down as a result of thinking about all the things that aren’t as we wish them to be in our lives.

At times like this it is important to remember that energy flows where attention goes. In essence, whatever one focuses on grows stronger. This can be to one’s benefit or detriment depending on where one places their attention.

If you truly desire a positive change in your life, then focus on what actions you’ll take to change things for the better — don’t dwell on what isn’t going well.

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"Whatever you focus on only grows stronger..."

"This isn’t going to be easy."

Remember, every difficulty or challenge we face is an opportunity for growth and improvement. In fact, this is mainly the only time we learn something new or life-changing.

When things are easy, we’re not developing new skills or new ways of handling something emotionally, spiritually, or physically.

And it is especially true that our attitude towards challenges can make all the difference. Ever really want to learn something “fun”, even though it was difficult?

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