Being a supportive person means more than simply offering help because it’s convenient or with the hope of receiving something in return. It means helping others even when it isn’t always easy — although it often is.
If you’re lucky enough to be surrounded by genuinely supportive people who would do anything to help you, cherish them.
They’re a rarity.
And if you want to be that kind of person for someone, don’t hesitate.
When one learns to let go of the non-essentials that contribute very little value to their life, they create more space for things of higher value.
And sometimes what one values most from the removal of something from their life is the time & space that’s created by its absence.
Many people surround themselves with things that may, at one time, have been useful, but no longer serve the purpose for which they were acquired. They hold onto this “stuff” with the hope that it may one day once again be useful, but for most things, that day rarely comes. Think of fitness equipment gathering dust. Bottles. Old clothes.
Others remain habitually obligated to ongoing activities or functions that they’d no longer commit their time, energy, or resources to if they were to start over.
In both cases, people’s lives are adversely affected by a commitment to things they no longer value.
As one only has one life to live, it’s important to not waste it caught up in things that no longer matter — or in the acquisition and subsequent storage of items that add little to no value to their life.
Isn’t it time you take inventory of the things you value in your life and to let go of those things that are simply taking up your time or space and no longer serve you?
Use it or lose it.
Dramatic life changes can occur when one makes a conscious & deliberate effort to surround themselves with only those things that they truly value in life instead of being weighed down and exhausted by things that they don’t.
The more that you incorporate things that you truly value into your life — from knowledge to skills to people to activities — the more value you not only bring to your own life, the more value you bring to the people and places you encounter on a daily basis.
With the proper skills, attitude, and approach you can navigate to wherever you wish to go.
But how quickly & easily you get to your desired destination depends not only on how efficiently you operate — and how resilient you are to challenges you encounter along the way — but on the overall integrity of your vessel.
In other words, how well you do in life depends a lot on how well you can handle and navigate less than desirable circumstances.
Now consider that your weaknesses are like leaks in the hull of this boat.
Under normal circumstances — and if the leaks are small — one can often bail out water quickly enough to keep their boat afloat.
Now, because a boat with leaks takes more energy to manage than one without, the ideal approach is to locate and plug as many leaks as possible.
The more leaks that one can plug, the more efficiently the boat will float and the less one feels the negative effects of the leaks that remain.
In short, identifying one’s weakness and then working on ways to overcome them makes one’s life more manageable.
On the flip side, if the leaks in one’s boat become too prevalent — perhaps while navigating a stormy sea — one’s vessel will take in water faster than one can bail it out.
And whether we’re talking about leaks or personal weaknesses here, not being able to manage them effectively can lead to feelings of being overwhelmed, helpless, and depressed.
So you can see why identifying and actively working on one’s weaknesses can be beneficial and empowering.
How to overcome weaknesses is beyond the scope of this post, but it should help to point out that the more that one can identify their weaknesses, triggers, and bad habits, the more that they can make a conscious effort to reduce them.
The more a person makes a conscious effort to reduce the impact of their weaknesses, the more they’re able to direct their life where they want it go.
The more control a person gains over their self, the more control they gain over their life. The more control a person has over their life, the happier they tend to be.
One of the biggest steps toward gaining control over one’s life is gaining control over one’s self.
Plug your leaks.
(And if you can’t plug them, at least learn ways to minimize them).
“We either make ourselves miserable or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same.” — Carlos Castaneda