Always #prioritize the value of the package, not the #production. In a world overflowing with #flashy #overproduced & easily #forgettable #superficial #garbage, focus on the substance & the potential value things provide & not just on how they are marketed to appear.
Be mindful of seeking immediate #results & #instantgratification. Just because you don’t get results exactly when you want them doesn’t mean you never will. Be patient. Little #efforts can add up to big things. In a world that only pays attention to today, try to think #longterm.
Not all #problems are equal. There are many problems that if we invested more time & money in solving would be of much greater #benefit & #value in our lives than those we/others sometimes fixate on fixing.
If you’re not where you want to be in life, always remember that what you’re feeling is just a sentence on a page in an entire book that makes up the story of your life. And the general feel & outcome of your story is written with the actions you take on a daily basis.
The times that humanity makes you want to crawl under a rock are not the times to remain quiet and do nothing. They are precisely the times that people are needed to #leadbyexample with acts that demonstrate the best of what we all have to offer.
We could all use a little more compassion, a little more empathy, a little more kindness, and little more love. Let’s make 2019 a year where we all put in a little more effort to give a little more of all the things we could all use a little more of.
For those struggling, remember, “#ThisTooShallPass”. But it passes faster when we focus on the steps we can take to change our lives for the better, no matter how small those steps may be. Because over time, even little steps can carry us a great distance.
You can be someone who looks for and complains about what they don’t like — or you can be someone who looks for and encourages the things they do like. One of these things will nearly always leave you feeling better than the other.
You can wish that more people did a certain thing — or you can actively begin showing appreciation to those who already do. And once again, one will nearly always leave you feeling better than the other.
The fact is, how we approach and seek to overcome problems can leave us feeling better or worse. Combating a negative situation with more negativity is rarely effective. But seeking ways to fight negativity in a positive and empowering way often is.
Encouraging the types of things and behaviors we want to see more of not only leaves us feeling more empowered than complaining does, it helps set a positive example for others to follow. This, in turn, helps to create more of the type of people and behaviors we want to see more of and less of the type of people and behaviors we don’t.
Encouragement is extremely powerful in that it not only nurtures the people you give it to, it nurtures the very thing you are encouraging. And this, in turn, brings into the world more of what you would like to see.
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1. It’s ok to show appreciation for things that you feel should be or are relatively common. People love recognition for the good things that they do.
You can thank someone for returning their grocery cart to the carousel
You can thank someone for cleaning up their mess in a public place
You can thank someone for holding the door for someone else
You can thank someone for any positive action you see them perform
2. Perception isn’t always reality. Just because you think someone appears successful or isn’t the type of person (or company) that could use positive feedback doesn’t mean your assessment is accurate. When everyone assumes their feedback won’t be significant to the people (or companies) they give it to, few people provide feedback. So instead of the perception that someone is being buried with praise, the opposite is true.
The point is, always take the time to show meaningful appreciation for the things that you like regardless of how “liked” you think they are.
Always remember that social media responses are not an accurate representation of people’s actual interest in your offerings. Users of social media platforms are always working against mechanisms that are intentionally kept a mystery.
Be very careful about using the response to something you or someone else posts as an indicator of its actual value. Lots of quality content goes unnoticed. And lots of crap gets promoted. Social media systems can easily be manipulated to make one thing appear more valued or popular than another.
Every platform has algorithms that are designed for the host’s benefit, not your own. And as long as there is a financial barrier between who can afford to pay for views and who cannot, it will never be a fair system based on the quality of the content.
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People can pay for all the things that can make them appear valued, popular, desirable, and successful. People can pay for views, pay for likes, pay for followers, and pay for engagement.
And all these things become part of a psychological phenomenon called social proof. And social proof can easily be leveraged to influence people to act and behave in ways that they wouldn’t if they knew the reality of a situation vs. what marketers and others want them to perceive to be true.
Social proof can also deter people from pursuing a chosen path because they get discouraged when they compare the results they’re getting with the results that someone else appears to be getting. It may simply be that someone is paying for those results. And even if they’re not… as I wrote in It’s your life and your path — keep going, “Remember, you’re living your life and walking your own path, not someone else’s. Just because someone else is making progress towards their goals is no reason for you to stop making progress towards your own.”
And as I wrote in Rejection, “If you believe in what you have to offer, then don’t stop offering it simply because some of those you offer it to reject it.” It may not be that what you have to offer is being rejected or ignored at all — it may just be that it is going unnoticed or hasn’t reached the right audience yet.