Where does confidence come from?
Look in the mirror.
One person may look at something and see one thing. Another may look at the same thing and see something else. It’s not the thing that’s different, it’s the perception of the person looking at it.
Your creativity, originality, genius and the value that you offer won’t always be recognized or appreciated for what it is. Just because some people fail to see the value in what you have to offer doesn’t mean you should stop offering it.
Criticism is common.
People who don’t let it adversely affect them are not.
If you don’t want to be the type of person who lets criticism impact their life in a significant way, don’t be.
“The trouble with most of us is that we would rather be ruined by praise than saved by criticism.” — Norman Vincent Peale
Be confident enough in yourself to listen to criticism and explore views you don’t necessarily agree with — because those who always agree with you will rarely push you to improve as much as those who don’t.
“A wise person knows that there is something to be learned from everyone.” — Unknown
Originally Published on: Feb 16, 2016 @ 11:49
Self-confidence is a byproduct of a stable sense of self-worth.
A stable sense of self-worth is a byproduct of self-acceptance.
If you wish to be more self-confident, learn to accept yourself as you are.
Originally Published on: Oct 1, 2015 @ 06:33
The fact is – for any number of reasons that are often beyond our control – people don’t always see us in the same way we see ourselves.
While it’s natural to care about how you are perceived, it is an exercise in futility to try to explain yourself or justify your actions to everyone who doesn’t get you. Not only is this often a waste of time, it will likely make you seem insecure on top of everything else.
People will often draw conclusions about others based on what they imagine or guess to be true rather than what actually is. They may even presume to know what motivates a person or declare with confidence that they know why that person took a specific course of action. When, in fact, these conclusions can paint a picture that doesn’t at all reflect reality. And that’s OK.
It is perfectly acceptable to ignore the fact that other people have the wrong impression of you. Because, with few exceptions, what other people think about you will have absolutely no impact on your life unless you choose to let it.
When you truly know who you are, it won’t matter so much that other people don’t. What matters is focusing on who you want to be and what you wish to accomplish with your life regardless of those who don’t get you, what you’re doing, or what you wish to do.
If someone who doesn’t know you has an inaccurate perception of who you are, it is not your job to correct them.
In some situations, explaining yourself may be helpful, but the occasions when people who could not care less about you make misinformed, misguided, or snap judgements about you are rarely those times.
Excerpt from: Likability. Being liked and unliked.
If you want to reach your full potential, then you must learn to accept yourself for who you are & who you want to be and take personal responsibility for your life and how you feel.
And along the way to self-actualization, you must be prepared to be unpopular. Don’t leave your sense of worth and well-being in the hands of others.
Those who achieve greatness in life don’t let others dictate how they feel about themselves — and neither should you.
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