I’ve said it before, if all I do is write posts that simply make people nod yes, then I’m not really doing much to make people think or change the way they look at things.
“It is just that we should be grateful, not only to those with whose views we may agree, but also to those who have expressed more superficial views; for these also contributed something, by developing before us the powers of thought.” — Aristotle
It is those things that make us pause and evaluate how we feel about them — whether we agree or disagree or just want to think about in more depth over time — that really make a difference in our lives.
The reward for travel is as much about what the act of experiencing new things makes you think (and feel), as it is about moving from one place to another.
Travel is not so much about the distance between departure and destination as it is about the journey. Don’t assume you have to travel far or somewhere exotic to reap the benefits inherent in the process.
Many people are guilty of failing to explore places that are easily within their reach simply because they take these places for granted or assume they know what they will find when they get there.
They fail to realize that the journey is as much of a reward as the destination.
Go for a walk, a hike, a bike ride. Take a drive.
However you do it, don’t be guilty of not exploring places that are easily within your reach. And remember to remain present for the journey.
Some of people’s best thoughts happen in the shower. Others come from going to places one has never been.
You never know where the inspiration for that next best thought or idea will come from. It might just be down that path you’ve never gone down before.
Originally published on: Apr 12, 2014 @ 15:40 Republished on: May 30, 2015 @ 13:40
It’s not so much how many wrinkles or how much hair you have that makes you seem old, it’s how you act.
Enthusiasm and an energetic spirit go a long way in giving one a youthful presence.
“Being youthful is an inside job. Think about what youth is. It’s kids, kids are enthusiastic, energetic, interested, optimistic, engaged, and curious. If you’re not all of those things, you can have no lines on your face and a 32 inch waist, and no one is going to call you youthful.” — Rob Lowe
Nothing makes you seem quite as old and used up like talking about how old and used up you are. And nothing reinforces in your mind how old you are as catering to these kinds of conversations with others.
Perhaps your memory isn’t as sharp as it used to be because you don’t do anything to keep it sharp or make it better.
Perhaps the pain or fatigue you feel in your body is a result of not doing much of anything to combat the effects of aging.
“You don’t stop doing things because you get old. You get old because you stop doing things.”
Yes, perhaps you have to make some mental and physical adjustments as you age, but people can do amazing and inspiring things at all ages.
If you simply resolve that “I am now limited because I’m getting old and that’s just the way it is”, you do a disservice to all the things you could still strive for and accomplish if you only tried.
Old-age thinking and old-age acting leads to “old age” much more than our revolutions around the sun.
Keep this in mind the next time someone wants you to identify with being “old” in a way you don’t necessarily agree with.
You can’t stop the clock, but you can do can do much to naturally combat the effects of aging in a negative way.
The secret of the fountain of youth is not in anything that can be bought. The secret of the fountain of youth is a healthy attitude towards aging.
Whatever your age, there’s always room for one more goal, one more accomplishment, one more way to better yourself and the world around you.
We live in a culture that suggests “thinking differently” and standing out from the crowd is a good thing, and yet we are often guilty of poking fun of anything or anyone we come across that is “out of the ordinary”.
Perhaps it’s because anything different is an easy target, a conversation starter, and an opportunity for any of us to make obvious observations…
“Oh my god. Look at that person’s…”
“Look at the weird way they…”
We may think we are being funny, but we often state these observations in a way that is critical — and not complimentary — to the person being observed. The fact that these aren’t the sort of things we would feel comfortable sharing verbatim with the person directly is a clear indicator that they’re being said at that person’s expense.
If you truly do admire independent thinkers and those who are true to themselves, remember this the next time you come across someone or something out of the ordinary. It means someone is choosing to be themselves despite immense pressure to fit in and be just like everyone else.
It takes a great deal of courage and confidence to be one’s true self and — as long as someone isn’t harming themselves or others in the process — it should be applauded, not mocked.
If you truly appreciate uniqueness in others, learn to express it in a positive way. Don’t be the person that says they believe that people should be themselves, but when presented with someone or something different, uses it as an opportunity to make fun of that person.
The qualities that make someone unique should be respected — even admired — not ridiculed.
Unique people often have coolest stories. And it might just be that if you knew the reason behind someone’s display of independence, you’d find it inspiring and worthy of praise, not mockery.
And perhaps that “weirdo” sitting behind a laptop in a cafe for 8 hours a day, multiple days in a row, is a badass with an awesome backstory and you just don’t know it.
I’m an optimist. I like to see the best in people. I believe human beings are inherently good. I believe people are capable of achieving far more than they believe. I encourage tolerance, kindness, and open minds.
That said, knowing this one simple fact may prove beneficial in getting through life:
Idiots are everywhere.
(And sometimes we are those idiots.)
That probably won’t change.
But what can change is who we are and how we act when we cross paths with idiots. Because, sadly, we often let other idiots turn us into idiots without thinking.
The more we resist the urge to let others control our emotions and our actions in a negative way, the less likely we are to let idiots turn us into idiots (and the happier and more in control of our lives we will be).
Our attitude and how we handle ourselves is always our responsibility.
We may not always know what to do when we cross paths with idiots, but we can always choose the type of person we want to be.
And if you choose not to let an idiot turn you into an idiot, that’s one less idiot there will be in the world.