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“They were asking for it.”
“I really want to make my ex jealous.”
“I’m going to teach that person a lesson.”
“I’m going to show that person how much they hurt me.”
“I’m going to make that person regret the day…”
This line of thinking only feeds a never-ending cycle of negativity. An eye for an eye only makes the whole world blind.
Don’t do to someone else anything that you don’t want someone to do to you.
A better solution? Work it out. Resolve conflicts. Make peace.
“But they won’t let me!”
Then let it go. Because you are better than that.
You can’t control other people, but you can control yourself. You can act in a way that you would be proud of. You can act in a way that doesn’t escalate a situation or perpetuate a cycle.
You are responsible for what you do, regardless of your motivation or how you feel.
Just because someone hurt you or offended you doesn’t give you a free pass to act violently, aggressively, use hate speech, or commit offensive acts.
Find a support group that doesn’t encourage these types of behavior.
Learn to communicate and express yourself effectively. Tell people how you feel without the need to lash out or intentionally inflict pain. Learn to forgive and let go.
Channel your energy into something positive. Set the example you’d like see more of. Do what you know in your heart is right, regardless of the circumstances.
Don’t let what others do be an excuse to behave badly.
Break the chain.
“Anger will never disappear so long as thoughts of resentment are cherished in the mind. Anger will disappear just as soon as thoughts of resentment are forgotten.” — John Dryden