The cause of boredom is often a result of not having a clear idea of what to do or having the motivation to do it.
The key to overcoming boredom is taking action.
Children will often sit in a room with a computer, games, and books, and say, “I’m bored.”
This is not a result of lack of things to do, it’s a result of not having any motivation to take advantage of any of the immediately obvious options. And this is often because it feels as if everything that can be done with the available options has already been done.
I’ve already played that game.
I’ve already read that book.
I’ve already used the computer and visited my favorite web sites.
Anything that you do over and over without reward (such as learning something new) feels repetitive and is no longer challenging. Or if it is challenging — such as in the case of a difficult video game — it is no longer challenging in a “fun” way. It becomes more of a source of frustration — so it is not an option.
“‘I’m bored’ is a useless thing to say. I mean, you live in a great, big, vast world that you’ve seen none percent of. Even the inside of your own mind is endless; it goes on forever, inwardly, do you understand? The fact that you’re alive is amazing, so you don’t get to say ‘I’m bored.'” — Louis CK
J: Well I don’t have a creative mind and why would I explore the world when I am 12.
Me: What makes you so certain that you don’t have a creative mind?
J: I can’t even attempt to think of anything my friends can. All I can do is run scenarios of super heroes fighting and who would win.
Here’s the deal J:
1. Research indicates that the human brain isn’t even fully developed until about 25 years of age. Coming to conclusions that you’re not good at something before your brain is even fully developed is a bit premature, at best. Because even after your brain is fully developed, we always have the ability to focus on learning new skills and honing others.
2. If you’ve ever had a dream, you’re creative.
If you’ve ever worried, you’re creative.
If you’ve ever made a wish for something you don’t have, you’re creative.
If you’ve ever made up an excuse, you’re creative.
If you’ve ever run scenarios of super heroes fighting and who would win, you’re creative.
Anyone who ever accomplished anything great in life had exactly the same number of hours in their day as you do.
Today we have more ways to solve more problems and get more done in a single day than have ever existed before in the whole span of history.
Your “lack of time” is not a time problem, it’s a priorities issue. One thing you can do to better manage your time is to stop doing so many of the things that bring little value to your life and start focusing on the things and people that do.
That’s all anyone who has ever gone on to accomplish great things has done. You don’t get more time by wishing for it. You get more time by making better use of the time you already have.
If a stranger came up to you on the street and called you a book, would it ruin your day? Probably not.
What if a friend called you a book? Would THAT ruin your day? Probably not.
Would the fact that someone called you a book actually make you a book? Unless that person is a wizard, then no.
So now that we are both certain that you know you are not a book, if someone did call you a book, would you feel the need to go to great lengths to “defend your honor” by explaining to that person — and others — why you are, in fact, not a book? Probably not.
If this isn’t beginning to sink in yet, just realize that I’m using the word “book” (which you know you are not), but it could be any other word.
So the next time someone decides to label you as something you know you are not, think “I am not a book”, and then react (or don’t react) accordingly.
Never underestimate the power of a single act of kindness to make a significant difference in someone’s life. A single act of kindness may just be the added lift that someone needs to go from falling to flying.
Although my post to Facebook earlier was intended to be light and fun, I’ve been chewing on it ever since. I know I’ve heard this “nature abhors a vacuum” expression before, but I wasn’t sure where it came from, so I looked it up — and that’s how this post got started.
At least that’s how I initially thought it got started. But then I looked back at something else I posted earlier in the day — a quote by Charles Burke about “Giving thanks” — and realized it felt familiar. While he doesn’t explicitly say the words, Burke’s quote includes this phrase:
“When you give thanks — real, soul-lifting, jubilant thanks — for things you don’t have yet, nature rushes in to fill that vacuum.”
So I was thinking, perhaps there really is some science behind the universe’s general tendency to fill voids — and maybe there’s a way for us to use this to our advantage?
A universal “loophole”, if you will…
I’ve heard it said before that:
“If you want something in your life, acting like you already have it is one of the most immediate ways to get it”.
So perhaps Charles Burke is onto something — what would (or could) happen if one was to be grateful for things one didn’t yet have?
Since it has also been said that our brainwaves turn thoughts into matter, could it not be the case that by acting (thinking) as if we already have what we want, the universe will “see” that void (if one exists) and seek to fill it?
Or maybe this is just some self-help silliness.
If being truly grateful makes you feel better about life anyway, perhaps that’s even more reason to practice gratitude.