Your mission today, if you choose to accept it, is to perform a random act of kindness.
Pay for someone’s toll or coffee.Put some change in an expired meter (*Note: may be illegal in some states). Share an artist’s work. Make a donation to a cause or help promote it. Help fund a Kickstarter project. Have flowers delivered to a receptionist. Let the Wookie win.
“Yes, I see the “lanes merge ahead” signs, but I’m really in a hurry today. Besides, I see those other jerks do this all the time.”
“I know the light is turning red, but I have important things to do.”
“I can’t find a trash can and I’m really tired of carrying this bottle, so I’m just going to drop it. Besides, there’s another bottle on the grass over there.”
“I don’t want to have to walk across the parking lot to throw my fast food trash away, so I’m just going to leave it next to my car. People get paid to clean this stuff up, right? I’m not littering, I’m giving someone a job.”
“I’m not walking another 40 feet to put this shopping cart in a rack. I’m just going to leave it in this parking space. Look at all the other carts in the parking lot. I’m sure someone will take care of it.”
“This thing I found doesn’t belong to me, but it’s kind of nice and I don’t want some thief to take it. So I’m going to.”
When you do things that you don’t like others to do — or wouldn’t want someone to do to you — you set an example for even more people to follow.
Always do the things you want to see more of in the world, not less.
I’ve said it before, if all I do is write posts that simply make people nod yes, then I’m not really doing much to make people think or change the way they look at things.
“It is just that we should be grateful, not only to those with whose views we may agree, but also to those who have expressed more superficial views; for these also contributed something, by developing before us the powers of thought.” — Aristotle
It is those things that make us pause and evaluate how we feel about them — whether we agree or disagree or just want to think about in more depth over time — that really make a difference in our lives.
Scott: Sometimes though, venting just makes you feel better.
Zero: Sure. Venting can release frustration. But so can simply talking to someone about how you want to solve a problem.
And research indicates the same:
“Angry? You could call a friend and vent. You could punch a pillow or break a plate. Or you could even record a rant on a website like RantRampage.com. Unfortunately, you may be doing more harm than good; research has found that venting actually makes your anger worse.” — Fast Company (Article)
Most people don’t like to listen to people vent or complain. But they are much more open to listening when it’s clear someone is working on solving a problem.
As I say, “there are more effective ways to communicate.”
I think it’s often not the actual act of complaining/venting that makes one feel better — it’s the thought that there will be a resolution because one has moved beyond complaining to the point of working on a solution.
Either with a decision that one is either going to accept the state of things or actually take action and change them.
There’s definitely a difference between sharing and talking about one’s problems without any intention of doing anything about them — and sharing and talking about one’s problems in a way that yields a solution — whether that comes from one’s self or the helpful suggestions of others.
Ultimately, I think it comes down to one deciding to finally accept something or take action to change it.
Although I think the manner in which to take action is the hard part (although I suppose acceptance can be difficult, too).