Did you know that your smile can be a predictor of how long you’ll live — and that the act of smiling has a measurable effect on your overall well-being? It’s true (see the video below). It’s also free.
Committing your goals to writing can have a massive impact on the likelihood of their accomplishment. And it’s free. Just do it.
“The average stream of consciousness includes about 1,500 thoughts a minute. If your goals are only in your mind, they are invariably jumbled up, vague, confused, contradictory and deficient in many ways. They offer no clarity and give you no motive power. You become like a ship without a rudder, drifting with the tides, crashing into the rocks inevitably and never really fulfilling your true potential.” — Brian Tracy
You may think, “If only I reach [this next phase of my life], then I won’t have to deal with these problems.” But the fact is, no matter where you are or how you live your life, you will always be challenged.
Just because you reach a certain level of success doesn’t mean all problems in your life disappear. They don’t. They simply evolve into whatever comes with that phase of your life and lifestyle.
How large or insurmountable the challenges in your life appear is in direct proportion to how well you learned to handle those that you previously encountered.
For example, dropping your ice-cream cone or spilling your milk seems like a serious problem as a child. Not so much to an adult. That’s because you’ve developed the skills necessary to handle such things without falling to pieces.
This can be said for all problems, not just childhood woes. It is through the problems that you overcome in life, that you develop the strength & skills necessary to handle whatever comes next. Contrast in your life is a good thing.
The trick to reducing how much challenges set you back in life is not in magically making them disappear. The trick is to develop the skills & discipline necessary to positively & productively handle whatever challenges come your way.
Complaining about problems — or actively resisting challenges — doesn’t diminish them. It is only through the action of facing them productively that does.
The faster you make that transition and adopt an “I can and will handle this” attitude the smaller your problems appear.
It’s not because you don’t make mistakes. We all do. That’s how we learn. It’s not because you haven’t occasionally come across in a way you didn’t intend. We all do that, too. It’s not because you’re always friendly, always generous, or always think of others before yourself.
The fact is, we’re all a work-in-progress and no one is perfect.
The reason I think you’re awesome is because of what I know you are capable of.
I know how you can make someone’s day simply by showing them appreciation.
I know how you can change a life by offering friendly advice and encouragement.
I know how you can improve upon the things you want to work on just by making them more of a priority in your life.
Perhaps it’s your fitness, your diet, or your relationships.
Perhaps it’s all three.
I know there is an incredibly powerful person in you capable of achieving far more than you ever thought possible. A person who, by striving to add just a little more positivity and kindness to the world each day, motivates and inspires others to do the same.
Self love: Being content with the work-in-progress that you are. Not seeking the approval of others. Being yourself. Comparing yourself only to who you were in the past and not to others. Not thinking you are any better than anyone else.
They will share inspirational quotes and motivational images like nobody’s business. They will root for the underdog in movies. They will tell you that “Freedom lies in being bold!“, “Go for it!” and “Just do it!”
And so you set forth to try.
And then it starts.
Because what they really meant was anyone but you.
Because you’re a nobody and you’re not what they had in mind. And you’re doing it all wrong.
“Everything tells me that I am about to make a wrong decision, but making mistakes is just part of life. What does the world want of me? Does it want me to take no risks, to go back to where I came from because I didn’t have the courage to say “yes” to life?” — Paulo Coelho
They will ridicule you for trying to climb. They will call you egotistical for sticking your neck out. They will say you’re not different. There’s nothing special about you. And “it’s been done”.
At the same time they tell you that you lack originality, you will be mocked for breaking the rules. Bucking the status quo. Being weird. Unconventional. And trying new things.
They will make quick snap judgements about your character without hesitation. “You’re just looking for attention.” “What a show off.” “Narcissist!” “Glory hound!” You’re a hack. Arrogant, too. You just think you’re better than everyone else.
They will seek to discourage you. “Why are you even trying?”, “You can’t escape the system.” You’re just a loser. Doomed to fail. And whatever it is you seek, you don’t deserve it anyway.
But remember this:
They will misread your intentions, your actions, and your words. They will try to tell you why you are doing what you’re doing — as if they have more insight into what you’re trying to do than you do.
And they will be wrong.
But it doesn’t matter.
Because you’re not doing it for them. You’re doing it for you. And whatever your reasons may be, you don’t have to explain or justify yourself unless you want to. What matters most is simply deciding what you want to do, and then setting forth to do it.
So just treat people well, be as good a person as you can be along the way, and don’t let the naysayers get you down.
“Expecting the world to treat you fairly because you are good is like expecting the bull not to charge because you are a vegetarian.” – Dennis Wholey
They don’t really think about you as much as you think they do anyway. And when it really comes down to it, why would you care so much about what other people think about you when they don’t provide you with the same consideration?